Before You Say ‘I Do’: How to Know If They’re Your Person or Your Pattern By Jacob B. Bleu

This is the Revised & Updated Edition of my relationship guide — now published under my real name, Jacob B. Bleu.

Before You Say ‘I Do’ is a raw, practical, modern guide designed to help you answer one of the biggest questions you’ll ever face:

Is this love real… or is this another pattern?

After years of serving as a minister and walking with couples through their highs, lows, breakthroughs, and heartbreaks, I’ve seen the same truth:
we marry people for the wrong reasons far more often than we realize.

This book helps you slow down, breathe, and get honest with yourself before stepping into forever.

Inside, we dig into:

• What wholeness looks like before marriage
• The difference between chemistry, compatibility, and real alignment
• How to spot patterns you keep repeating
• Why “equally yoked” is still one of the most timeless relationship principles
• Red flags, green flags, and the subtle things that matter
• How to choose someone who brings peace, not chaos
• How to listen to your spirit, not your fear or loneliness

This guide is not about perfection — it’s about clarity, confidence, and choosing love with open eyes instead of wishful thinking.

If you're dating, engaged, or even just reevaluating your last relationship… this is for you.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this my person or my pattern?” — this is definitely for you.

Updated + Revised Edition includes:

• New insights
• Cleaner language
• Updated formatting
• Author name updated to Jacob B. Bleu
• Fresh edits for clarity and impact

I pray this book meets you exactly where you are.
And more importantly — I pray it helps you choose a love that lasts.